Athe leader, your words can be mobilizing and uplifting, or dismissive and critical. Left unchecked, the words you speak can tear down the team culture you’ve been working so hard to establish.
You create cultural expectations through your example; what you say about others shouldn’t change based on who is in your presence.
Hypocrisy is erosive. If you give it an inch, it will take a mile.
Today’s video is a powerful reminder that our words hold weight. So, speak wisely.
I walked in the room and saw the group huddled up. As I approached, Rich whispered to me, “Did you see what she did? She scheduled that meeting intentionally so I couldn’t attend. She knows my opinion and she did it on purpose”
Did you talk to her about it? No, of course not (but, clearly, he had talked to everyone else).
Apparently, we’re supposed to alter the truth, keep secrets and everything is a drama. Who knew? Based on who is in the room, we respond. Maybe that’s a skill I’m just not equipped with.
I asked the brutal question, “Do you want to resolve this issue or are you just gathering support for your position?” He was shocked, maybe angry, but in five minutes the issue was resolved.
What if we really believed that everything done in secret will be exposed? That everything said in secret will come out?
Wait a minute, Greg, that’s harsh! Don’t we all have secrets?
Maybe you better think about the secrets being kept, especially if you’re the leader. You think what you said about one team member to others won’t do any damage? Are your conversations masked based on who is in the room? If you EXPECT there to be secrets and the yeast of hypocrisy in your team, you’re already dead.
Hypocrisy is your enemy! It pollutes your mission, disrupts your unity and cripples your leadership. The yeast of hypocrisy (that’s what Jesus called it) slips in and it grows.
It looks small but it TAKES OVER.
I don’t care how normal, natural, uncontrollable it seems to be, if you’re packaging the yeast of hypocrisy into your culture, you will eventually yield to it. Beware!