AUDIO: Why Leaders Need to Know What They Believe
It was a beautiful day outside and I convinced my grandson, Wyatt, to go outside with me. He ran for his tennis shoes and informed me he needed help to tie them.
According to my mom, I made a career of teaching my friends how to tie their shoes when I was a boy, so I thought this might be a good time to see if I still had the touch.
I asked Wyatt what he thought his mother would say if he could tie his shoes when she picked him up. He informed me that she would say, “I’m not surprised.”
Off to the deck, we went to find a good place for the lesson. I showed him once very slowly. Wrap around your finger and your finger is just temporarily holds the place where you will pull the string through. Without making an attempt he folded his arms and emitted a deep sigh. “I’ll never be able to tie my own shoes”, he moaned.
No amount of coaxing, ego boosting or cajoling was effective. I wanted to infuse 56 year old wisdom into this 7 year old child. Doesn’t he realize how much potential he has? Can’t I give him the fierce nature of my own experience about life?
Revealing Your Hidden Beliefs
Sometimes, it’s easier for others to see what we believe than it is ourselves. As I wrote this, I had to stop and give myself fifty pushups because I haven’t identified the hidden belief that is keeping me out of the gym on a regular basis!
Can you lead others if you can’t lead yourself?
Hidden beliefs will:
- Corrupt your decision making criteria.
- Manifest in unexpected uncertainty or fear.
- Embarrass you with unpredictable emotions.
- Distort your intuition.
- Cause you to make judgements (like tying your shoes) without thorough evaluation.
Life is a powerful unfolding of cause and effect. Unless you are fully aware of your underlying beliefs, you can’t achieve the outcomes you are working toward!
After I gave up on teaching Wyatt how to tie his shoes, it occurred to me I’m not so different.
Have you ever decided something was impossible before you made an attempt?
Without understanding your beliefs, you have no idea what is limiting your performance or your leadership!
False Beliefs Always Equal Failure
After returning home from prison, I was certain that nobody wanted to hear my thoughts about business any longer. If I had listened to my internal beliefs, I would never have explored it. The vulnerability alone was overwhelming. What if I fail?
I knew I was not going to be free from my past until I understood what had happened to me and why. As I prayed, wrote and argued with myself, I realized my previous motivations and foundations were built on some false assumptions. False and circumstantial beliefs positioned me for failure (you can read about that in my book, Broken).
Once I understood that, the unconscious beliefs of my life were brought out into the light. With Gods help, I was able to break those chains and rebuild on conscious beliefs built on God’s Word.
What limits have you experienced in your leadership? What is the ceiling you keep coming up against? What are the unexpected symptoms of self-sabotage?
There are many leadership BREAKTHROUGHS available to you but they will all disappoint unless you are clear about your underlying beliefs.
Saying you believe something doesn’t make it a true belief.
When you analyze your actions, you will be able to tell yourself what you really do believe.
And, KNOWING what you believe is the path to Breakthrough Leadership.
It’s time for another set of pushups.
Add your comments to the conversation: Have you taken the time to really understand your own beliefs? Evaluate your actions recently. Which of those are limiting your relationship with God and yourself? Post your reply below.