AUDIO: The Secret Truth About Suffering and Loss
I don’t know about you but even after I’ve experienced this reality, I still avoid suffering at all costs. Can you imagine signing up for it?
“Hey, click on the link and we will take you through some really great suffering so you can persevere and develop some character.” Yeah, I don’t think so.
Suffering and Growth are Intrinsically Linked
If I tell you how to avoid suffering, that’ll get your attention. But, all of this is messed up. It works backwards and it’s born out of a genuine path of opportunity and growth. All I can say is this.
You will face suffering. And when you do, remember – this is your opportunity.
No, you wouldn’t choose it, no you don’t enjoy it and you don’t want it… but you can persevere in it and you can become a better version of yourself.
Facing financial crisis after decades of prosperity made me feel hopeless. It was a suffering I tried to avoid at all costs. It pursued me until I couldn’t outrun it any longer. It was so painful I wanted to die. I was facing a sickness of fear I had no antibodies against. When all seemed lost, suddenly my taste for life came back stronger than ever before. Not only did I feel stronger, I was stronger. My immune system had faced it, persevered through it and built defenses against it. I learned that fear and failure aren’t nearly as powerful as I thought they were.
How to Survive Suffering and Find Personal Growth
How does this happen? Why does it work this way? We get stuck, bogged down by the fear of change driven by limiting beliefs we have accepted. Suffering forces us to adapt, to go where we don’t want to go, to step into a reality that forces us to face our fear. The pain itself is not what is good. Suffering loss is devastating, but it changes us. It forces us to persevere, to grow, to develop character that makes life richer, somehow, as a result.
Here’s the thing, you don’t see breakthrough in the middle of brokenness, but it’s your destiny. Keep persevering. Keep finding traction to move forward and you can move from brokenness to Breakthrough.
Add your comments to the conversation: In your own career, how have you experienced suffering? How did that change the course of your leadership? Post your reply below.