Vlog Season 01, Episode 25, Greg and I talk about why the obsessions of your team can either be competing, and destroying, or transformed into a vehicle to unite the efforts of your team.

People get obsessed about the strangest things, sometimes. And, I’ve seen teams go toe-to-toe over the cat vs. dog argument.

Somebody makes a COMMENT in opposition to the others obsessions and a war breaks out.

The obsession rises to the surface and, if they are competing obsessions, it creates a divide and over-runs the intent of the meeting, and effort of the leader.

Here’s the thing, opposing obsessions can be in the room even if they aren’t being voiced. And, this invisible warfare is powerful enough to edge out the leader’s agenda, and mission.

You aren’t going to agree on EVERYTHING. But, we are seeking to understand and work inside of the area I call “shared obsession”. This is the sweet spot. The area that overlaps for everyone and makes use of their greatest gifts.

This common area is CHOSEN by the entire team and everyone electively chooses to be obsessed about it. This isn’t subconscious…it’s intentional.

Reign in the power of obsession and harness it for the good of your team. Obsession can be a GOOD thing.

In this episode you will learn:

  1. Why resistance and lack of participation edge out the leader’s intent for the team
  2. Why it’s the leader’s responsibility to create an environment where the mission is understood
  3. How a shared obsession allows each team member to contribute the best to the efforts of the team


1. Create a Common Obsession by…Identifying the Common Goals.

  • How can you get obsessed if you don’t know what your common goals are?
  • Sometimes, when you enter a room the environment has to change.
  • Create an environment where people understand the mission.
  • This enables team members to plug-in, with their own gifts, and contribute to the mission of the company.

2. Create a Common Obsession by…Clarifying Individual Impact.

  • Every person on your team has a purpose.
  • Each person brings value and is valuable.

3. Create a Common Obsession by…Eliminating Competing Patterns.

  • Create awareness and find the triggers.
  • Resistance and lack of participation will destroy the effort of the team.
  • This may mean restructuring your team.


Listen and identify to the competing obsessions that already exist on your team. And then, arrive at a compelling shared obsession that you can begin to implement as a pathway to breakthrough for your team.


Add your comments below: Have you experienced competing obsessions in your team? How did you see this manifest in your team?

About Matthew

Matthew DeYoung is a serial entrepreneur. He is the cofounder of Breakthrough Leadership. He has been a cofounder of six other internet-based startup businesses. His past consulting clients have included Walt Disney, Universal Studios, Target, NASCAR, and the NBA. As a learner, he is always trying to demystify the leadership aspects of business. Matthew has been married for 17 years and has two daughters.

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