AUDIO: Is Love a Leadership Skill?
My emotions had been like a piece of metal. My focus rested on projects and calculations, rarely on people and experiences. Today, I felt an unimaginable joy pouring into me and it overwhelmed my senses. I wept. A powerful sense of fulfillment saturated me. I wanted to share it with others.
Love is a Leadership Skill We Don’t Think About
Have you heard the expression, “you can’t give what you don’t have”? It was true for me. I had fierce vision and was an inspirational leader. I thought that was enough until I learned what it felt like to experience true satisfaction. Suddenly, I comprehended a type of leadership and cohesion I had never imagined.
Great Leadership is Built on Love
The greatest Leadership ever exhibited was built on love. The greatest team, sent on the greatest mission of all time, was indestructible because of love. Love received and then Love given (I’m referring to Jesus, his Disciples, and his Church).
“They don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care.” Maybe it’s just a corny one liner but I’ve never seen loyalty or team cohesion where this didn’t exist. True love makes sacrifices. So do effective leaders and effective teams.
3 Ways Love Works In and Through Your Leadership
1. People Are Motivated When They’re Valued – People will fulfill basic requirements for a paycheck. True loyalty and personal buy-in come only through belief in a much deeper relationship. The only true motivator is a sense of being valued. I think its love.
2. You Have to Know the Source of Love – Loving ourselves, receiving love from God, and others is the first step to leadership. Love bestows a deep sense of value and enables us to give value in turn to others. We can’t give what we don’t have.
3. Leadership is Passion. Leadership shares a vision of such power and clarity that those in relationship with the leader are willing to see and hear the shared vision. The relationship of the team with its leader enables buy-in which enables success.
A bi-directional team effort is not possible without the leadership skill of love. You can’t buy love!
Teamwork and Love are Worth the Risk
So, what prevents us as leaders from seeing beyond circumstance and busy-ness? What causes employees, like children, to be a nuisance when they should be a joy? Why are we AFRAID to open ourselves up to Love in our Leadership?
Is it risky? Of course it is! But, what is the alternative? Distance? Segregation? Isolation? Fear of vulnerability?
The risk may be real but the FEAR is not! People respond to love. We respond to love. We all respond to love. The heart is drawn to that which it secretly desires and that which it secretly fears.
Love is the tuning fork of our relationships, the authenticity of them. Where it cannot exist at some level, the entire validity of the relationship and of any potential leadership MUST be questioned.
The tuning fork relationship of Love is an intentionally developed skill. It is birthed in trust and it matures in active Breakthrough Leadership on an organizational level.
Love as a leadership skill changes everything.
Add your comments to the conversation: Some of the greatest leaders in history stepped into their role out of a deep love for people. What are your favorite examples? Post your reply below.