AUDIO: 3 Ways To Really Make A Difference
I’m having trouble coming to grips with something. I mean… it doesn’t seem right; I’ve been able to help people more through my weaknesses and brokenness than I have through my strength. I hate it. Why do people seem to hear me when I’m weak instead of when I’m strong?
I like being strong! I like having answers and confidently sharing them with everyone. But in my experience, there are three reasons people respect me for my brokenness more than anything else.
First – Transparency is vulnerable.
Second – Brokenness is believable.
And, Third – Failure is honorable.
1. Transparency is vulnerable.
IT MAKES ME VULNERABLE, and everybody knows it. And, when I can be vulnerable, there is the possibility for trust. Without trust, anything I say is, well…not trusted. If my shields are up, so are yours. But when my shields come down I’m no longer trying to subject you to my agenda. I’m showing you my heart.
2. Brokenness is believable.
Maybe you just haven’t experienced brokenness YET. I guess that’s possible. But more likely you’re like I was and you have adaptive camouflage. You think, if people think I have the answers for this and I’m unbroken, they will listen to how I did it. I’ll appear more qualified to lead and to trust. UNBROKEN is not genuine. And it’s not believable. Tell me how you’ve failed and I’ll believe you’ve got more than a theory you’re working with.
3. Failure is honorable.
This one may set you back. We all have this love-hate relationship with failure. We want to tell people how we got it right, not how we got it wrong. But the only DISHONORABLE failure is the failure to try. That comes from submission to fear. True failure that comes from a gallant attempt to reach beyond where you are with passion to become all you were created to be is honorable. And, when you learn to share it, people will celebrate your failures as much as your ultimate successes. Without those honorable failures, there is far less worth celebrating.
If you want to truly make a difference in the lives of others, accidental success might be the worst thing that could ever happen to you.
Yes we want people who will guide us along the path, maybe we even learn from their failures. But, the fact remains, success is born in failure. Failure is honorable.
We’re afraid to fail because we feel alone. We miss that it’s honorable because we don’t understand the power of community. We can fail and someone else has our back.
Someone in our tribe who shares our journey sees a way to succeed after our failure. Like watching someone else’s putt to see the break on the green you didn’t see before.
We’re all afraid of being alone. If you want to make a difference, share your failure in brokenness and transparency. Those three things will make you a real leader.
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Have you limited your failure’s exposure within your leadership? If sharing your failures and weakness to others would help one person avoid the same mistakes, would you?
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